Questions and Answers -- Q & A
Question: What do you say to a woman who is speaking only negatively about her deceased husband? (Submitted by J.D. on July 31, 2017)
Answer: Thank you for your question, J.D. You might ask the woman if her thoughts about her deceased husband are bringing her peace? If the answer is no, then you might suggest she ask for another way of seeing him -- one that WILL bring peace. This way you are not judging and also not advising, just ASKING and SUGGESTING. There is more than one way to view everything here on this earth!!
Comment: Dear Lori, I think your website is terrific, and you are clearly one of the true scholars on A Course in Miracles. So I am pleased that the site is going up and that it has a true Authority behind it. I feel certain that you will enjoy a positive outcome, and good participation. (Submitted by Marie A. on June 17, 2017)
Question: I have had difficulty breathing ever since I moved to the seaside of California. Did God give me this condition? Like, is there a reason I have this difficulty; is there a lesson here that I need to learn?
Answer: No. God gave you everything you need in your creation, and "breathing difficulty" was not on that list. God's Will for us is perfect happiness, and life is clearly happier when we are clearly breathing. Choose to be a "happy learner" and watch these "difficulties" pass away into the nothingness from which they came.
References: ACIM -- Workbook Lesson 101.h; ACIM -- T-14.II -- The Happy Learner.
Question: Is there a way I can be "real" in this world of illusion and still be kind? Does being real necessarily involve being blunt?
Answer: It is sometimes thought that being "blunt" is being real, and the action is often followed by this sentence "I am just being real." Yet we are the most "real" in this worldly illusion when we are being kind, compassionate and loving. You can speak "concisely" without being "blunt." Wisdom and Kindness are excellent companions. Jesus depicted this beautifully when he is reported to have said "He who is among you without sin, let him first throw a stone . . ." He could have called them hypocrites, yet he chose otherwise. He used wisdom coupled with kindness. His words were more instructive and helpful, than critical and blunt. He taught that as you see your brother/sister, so do you see yourself. He helped the would-be stone throwers to see things differently. His words were so powerful that they evoked peace. ONLY LOVE IS REAL.
Reference: Lamsa Bible -- John 8:1-11 (7).
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Question: The mother-in-law image has really taken a toll on society over the last half century. Comedians have taken it to the limit and others, too. That seems so unfair. I understand that some may deserve it, but surely not everyone falls in that category? (Submitted by A.F. on September 4, 2016)
Question: Why do I dislike being corrected? And how do I overcome this to accept correction with grace? (Submitted by A.F. on September 3, 2016)
Answer: The adversity to correction is of the ego. Correction is embarrassing only to the ego which wants you to think it knows everything. Yet in order to overcome this response to correction, you must see correction differently. Correction in the course is actually a miracle. "A miracle is a correction introduced into false thinking by (Jesus). It acts as a catalyst, breaking up erroneous perception and reorganizing it properly (thus) perception is healed." One of the ways in which we are truly helpful to each other is through correction. Errors lead us away from God. Truth leads us toward Him. So wanting correction for an error is a blessing. It is the way we LEARN AND GROW in the lord. Why would anyone want to keep an error? Why would anyone want a blockage on the path to God? Love a person enough to care that they know the truth and that they be set free from error. In fact, you might almost say to relish being alerted to mistakes, so they can ALL be corrected, and thus you can get higher and nearer to truth and to God. Yet, as with anything, correction must be done under the guidance of the Holy Spirit with forthright honesty, standing firm in the truth, and above all with kindness and with LOVE. True correction is both given and received with God's grace.
Reference: ACIM -- T-1.36., Principles of Miracles.
Question: I was thinking today about how much we affect each other by our attitudes, our words, and our actions. I was wondering if there is enough joy coming my way to make up for all the joy I have not had all these years, because I have been with many trying or troubled or grumpy or greedy or somehow downtrodden and dysfunctional people, and I allowed it to separate me from my joy? (Submitted by Lynne R. on August 25, 2016)
Answer: The people we are around, and the thoughts we allow into our minds -- all may have a HUGE effect on our happiness. We must therefore make a change. We must not allow those around us to choose misery. We must choose happiness for them. We must follow the Holy Spirit as He guides us to make a positive difference in the minds of those who come into our lives. And as we do, our own minds will respond in kind -- and in kindness. Let that thought become a prayer.
One moment of true joy will make up for a lifetime of misery for you and your brothers. Remember, the holiest place on earth is where two people have forgiven each other.
Prayer: Bless us all, Father, as we rise above all the lower thoughts of disharmony into the higher thought levels of harmony, as we remember our goals and disallow distractions and discordance, and as we reach to our inner core of light and love and share THAT with everyone. Regardless of what others bring to us, we can bring your love to them -- and with Your Help and Helpers, we will to do this, until we all are Home. In Jesus' name we pray. Amen.
Answer: According to A Course in Miracles, "A miracle is a correction entered into false thinking" by Jesus. "It acts as a catalyst, breaking up erroneous perception and reorganizing it properly." Correcting false perception is very important in this world. When perception is false, so are all the premises built on that falsity. A false perception will lead to another false perception, and another. A man who builds his "house" upon sand, builds an unstable house. The first step toward freedom, then, involves a sorting of the false from the true. "Truth will correct all errors in my mind." Begin with the truth, continue with the truth, and extend the truth by demonstrating it and sharing it. If there is only truth, you will see only perfection. Then you will recognize the validity of the statement: "The Truth will set you free."
References: ACIM -- Miracle Principle 37 (T-I.1:37); ACIM -- T-2,VIII,4:1; ACIM -- W-107.h.; ACIM -- T-3.II.3:5.
Lamsa Bible -- Matthew 7:24-27, Parable of the Wise and Foolish Builders.
Question: What is the "the Truth that will set you free"?
Answer 1: "I am as God created me."
"Let us declare this truth as often as we can. This is the Word of God that sets you free. This is the key that opens up the gate of Heaven, and that lets you enter in the peace of God and His eternity."
References: ACIM -- Workbook 110.11:4-7.
ACIM -- Workbook 191.all. "I am the holy Son of God Himself."
Answer 2: "My Son is pure and holy as Myself."
"Because your Creator creates only like Himself, you are like Him." God and His Son are One. All of God's children are His One Son, collectively called "The Sonship." Nothing can prevail against a Son of God who commends his spirit into the Hands of his Father. When the Will of the Sonship and the Father are one, their perfect accord is Heaven. Once this Truth is awakened in your mind, is accepted and becomes manifest, you will indeed know freedom. Then you will use the power of which you have been unaware for so long.
References: ACIM -- W-pII.276.1:2; ACIM -- T-8.II.7:6; ACIM -- T-1.I.19:2; ACIM -- T-3.II.5:1; ACIM -- T-3.II.4:6